When you first met
Audrey Merkin you knew you were meeting someone you would remember for the rest of your life.
I met
Audrey in 1981 when I first got involved in the
California Young Republicans. Over the next 15 years we developed an enduring friendship through
Young Republican politics.
Sometimes we were allies and sometimes we were not. But
Audrey was always someone fun to be around.
I can't think of a single time I was with her at a dinner table where she wasn't the complete focus of the evening. She had a laugh that was infectious.
Being taken into
Audrey's confidence over the phone always made me feel like the most important person in the world.
Audrey knew how to work the phone. She was legendary for it.
Audrey always knew the latest gossip and was ready to dish -- in exchange for receiving a few juicy morsels to begin the conversation.
After years of active participation,
Audrey rose to be the
Co-Chairman of the
Young Republican National Federation -- elected in
Seattle in 1987.
Living in
Vegas, she loved to have friends visit her for a weekend. I can remember a few weekends in the 80s that always ended with
Brunch at
Caesars Palace -- the object of brunch was always to stack as many plastic champagne glasses as high as you could. (Our group seemed pretty good at it.) Not the best activity before hitting
I-15 for the drive back to
Los Angeles but, oh well.
Pulling pranks on
Audrey was always so much fun because once she figured out what was happening she laughed harder than anyone else.
Once
Audrey,
Danny Dellicompagni and I had to drive to
Northern California for some convention. Turns out
Brian Perry was going to the same convention but was starting out somewhere in the
Central Valley. I made a secret plan with
Brian to pick him up at a certain freeway on-ramp at a particular time.
About 20 minutes before reaching the on-ramp I began telling
Audrey and
Danny they were boring me and since we had a long way to go I was going to pick-up a hitchhiker. They thought I was kidding.
A few minutes later I told them I was serious about helping out a hitchhiker and if there was one standing on the next on-ramp I was going to pick him up.
Off in the distance we could see a hitchhiker. I told
Danny, sitting in the back seat, to move over. That's when it hit the fan. As I started to slow down
Danny was kicking the back of my seat saying "don't you dare."
Audrey was yelling that it wasn't safe to pick-up hitchhikers and I was out of my mind. "You don't even pick-up hitchhikers in
Israel," she said.
As the car slowed to a stop
Audrey screamed, "Oh my God, it's
Brian Perry!" She thought it was so funny and we laughed about it for the next 20 miles.
Another time
GeezBob and I thought it would be really funny to sneak into
Audrey's hotel room and rub
Kool-Aid on her bath towels. We had this funny mental picture of
Audrey stepping out of the shower and as she dried off exclaiming, "Help me, I'm purple." Unfortunately, this prank didn't go over so well.
We got caught coming out of her room "purple-handed." So
Audrey never did use the towels. In fact she said the
Kool-Aid dust in her room had ruined one of her expensive dresses. She said I had to pay her for the destroyed dress. I said I would but only if she gave me the dress after I paid for it so I could be her for
Halloween. All was forgiven on the
Kool-Aid caper.
Last Friday when I learned
Audrey had died (I appreciate
Jim Arnone,
Brian Perry and
Pam Taylor making sure I knew) I immediately began planning to attend the funeral.
Audrey's funeral took place today at
Temple Beth Sholom in
Las Vegas. A huge crowd was on hand, in fact the Temple had to open up their overflow seating area.
It was a touching, yet simple, service.
Because Audrey had died so suddenly and in such a difficult manner the
Rabbi explained that instead of having the family tell the story over and over they were going to have a doctor explain exactly what had happened. According to the doctor who addressed the funeral,
Audrey died from
Stevens-Johnson Syndrome http://www.emedicine.com/emerg/topic555.htmThis is an extremely rare (7 in 1 million population) acute allergic reaction. Little is known about the syndrome and it is unknown what triggered it in
Audrey's situation.
Next
John Velasco, now a non-denominational, ecumenical Christian minister, said a few words describing
Audrey as "a treasure."
The Temple's vice president, a personal friend of
Audrey's, began her comments by holding up her cellphone and saying, "it still has a message on it. 'Hi, it's
Audrey. Call me.'" The whole crowd laughed warmly because we've all received numerous message exactly like that from
Audrey.
And the Temple's President spoke, focusing on
Audrey's tireless work on behalf of the Temple.
Following the service,
Audrey was buried at the
King David Memorial Cemetery. As is the Jewish custom, those gathered were invited to shovel some dirt into the open grave.
What sight is more wrenching than watching a mother shovel some dirt into her own child's grave? My heart broke when
Eunice Merkin did that for
Audrey.
After the graveside service there was a reception back at
Temple Beth Sholom. (
Audrey would be happy to know the food was excellent and beautifully presented and her
YR friends remained well-behaved.)
Formerly
Young Republicans in attendance today included:
Claudia DochtermannDoreen DominguezJim ClarkeDr. Michael ClarkeDave and Andrea De SormeauAmador County Supervisor Richard and Laurie ForresterFormer Utah Congresswoman Enid GreeneBrian KraftJill RichardsBob Rubin of
Boca RatonDoug Sklar, now living in
Eastern Washington StateTom Van VoorstMike Vahl -- who made the motion in 1989 for the
California Young Republicans to censure me, not that I'm bitter.
Cheers to you,
Audrey.